Why can’t I be an only child?

God’s Plan for Loving Our Siblings

God puts some of us in families as an only child.  The rest of us have siblings.  If we desire to be an only child, it is probably for reasons that aren’t that pleasant.  It is difficult, at times, to love your siblings, but that is what God has called us to do.  Let’s take a look and learn how to show love to our brothers and sisters and treat them the way God has called us to.

John 21:15-19

Jesus tested Peter’s love for Him by asking Peter three times if he loved Him.  When Peter responded that he did, Jesus told Peter to feed and take care of his sheep.  Although the sheep in this passage were the people of the church, this passage instructs us how to treat the peole around us, especially our families.  What does it look like to feed and care for brothers and sisters?  Understand that loving and caring for siblings is a way to demonstrate love and obedience to God.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Chapter 13 of 1 Corinthians is the famous love chapter.  It begins with a dramatic paragraph on the importance of love.  In the first three verses, Paul emphasizes that loving motives are what make the actions good by offering examples.  Paul’s point is that anything we do that’s not done in love is meaningless to God.  The love Paul describes in this passage seeks the pleasure and good of others.  It requires that, instead of pursuing pleasure for ourselves, we focus on what’s best for others – as Jesus did.  This is true love!  As we become more loving and put others first, we’re becoming more like Jesus.

Matthew 10:16-22

In what ways are we able to show love to our siblings?  Matthew describes family members killing each other, all because of their beliefs.  Some conflicts might seem harmless, but God calls us to act in a loving manner no matter what others do.  How might you have been hurt in the past?  If similar situation occur in the future, how can we respond in love?

As we grow into young adults, we are establishing and learning about relationships and identities.  Sometimes this can cause some conflict between siblings, as we attempt to assert our own unique identity.  We can learn to respond in love to our siblings.  This study gives us the tools to continue to develop our own unique identity in Christ’s love, without a disregard for our siblings.